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| Is it only weak
people who need to talk? |
Some people think
you're inadequate if you want to talk things over with a neutral but helpful person. Maybe
they've never met anything that really taxed them - or have forgotten how much it hurt. The fact is that everybody sometimes hits situations
which are hard to handle - and talking it over helps to get a better perspective and to
work out what's best to do. Bottling it up is usually the worst option - you feel bad, you
can't work out what to do, and you don't get any help. But it isn't easy to get yourself
to start talking, because you both want to talk & want to keep it to yourself in case
people laugh at you. So how do you choose the right person to talk to?
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| Finding the right
person to talk to |
The best person to
talk over something difficult ...
 | will be on your side, but
not emotionally involved in the problem
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| will be interested in
helping you, but not trying to take over
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| will be a good listener,
warm, unjudgemental & positive
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| will be honest, sincere and
able to keep your secrets
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| will know how to help you
work out the right answers for yourself
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| will have useful information
to offer when you want to know something
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| won't have a hidden agenda
and won't want you to do as they say
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If you already know this person,
then make some time to talk with them.
And if you don't, I can help |
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